Being Prepared: Not Just for Bridesmaids and Boy Scouts

By Sharron R. Blezard, November 3, 2014

Lectionary Reflection for the 22nd Sunday after Pentecost Year A

November 9, 2014

Keep awake therefore, for you know neither the day nor the hour. Matthew 25:13

This weekend I was rummaging through stacks of free books at my alma mater’s annual library book sale, and I had a good chuckle over one slim volume titled something along the lines of “18 Reasons the Rapture Will Occur in 1988.” No wonder that book ended up in the free pile! More than 25 years have passed, yet rapture rumblings continue, including those generated by the new Left Behind movie starring Nicholas Cage. But questions and wonderment about the second coming are not a modern phenomenon. Take this week’s lesson from Matthew’s gospel concerning the wise and foolish Waiting for the Wordbridesmaids who await the groom’s arrival. The wise women have extra oil for their lamps; the foolish women do not. All the bridesmaids become drowsy and fall asleep, but the foolish women have to go in search of oil and miss the party.

How do we understand this parable? Does it address a future judgment of who will be “in” and who will be “out”? Is there a time to keep what is ours and not share with others? Is that Jesus’ point here? I must admit that I don’t particularly like this story. It hits a nerve because there have been many times when I have felt underprepared or ill-equipped for a task and must depend on the cooperative and collaborative efforts of others. The idea that I might be like one of the wise bridesmaids and not share my oil also causes me discomfort; after all, I like to think I’m a decent sort of person who will help those in need. And then there’s this bridegroom who says he doesn’t know the foolish bridesmaids and shuts them out of the party. How are we to understand that shunning in relation to eschatological judgment?

Perhaps the point is more about trying to remain alert and in the moment—even more than making sure we are prepared, right down to the last ounce of extra oil. If we stay awake, if we look around, if we’re intentional about discipleship and about making disciples, then maybe folks won’t be so prone to run around with insufficient oil in the first place. What if right at the start, the wise bridesmaids had said to their foolish sisters something along the lines of “Hey, did you Wating for the Word ccthink to bring extra oil? Maybe you should go get some now so that you can be ready.” When they could have been about the business of cultivating relationships and making ready, instead everybody falls asleep waiting.

Things don’t always go as planned. Folks in the first century after Jesus’ resurrection were clearly anticipating Jesus’ imminent return. Well, we’re still waiting, but that doesn’t mean we fall asleep or say “Hey, we have all that we need. We’re prepared for the day of the Lord. Who cares about the rest of the wedding party?” In the meantime, there’s work to be done. There’s a great big, beautiful, broken world out there, brimming with people who need to know about God’s love and filled with possibility for mission and ministry. So, yes, it’s good that we’re ready, that we’re prepared for the divine party to start; however, let’s not settle in for a long winter’s nap or fall prey to feeling smug about our readiness to greet our Lord. The stakes are far too high.

In Worship

Maybe it’s time to talk about stewardship in your congregation, and the parable of the bridesmaids provides a good way to do so. What does it mean to be a good steward, one who is prepared and who has enough? What does it mean for our churches to have “extra oil for our lamps”? Do we simply float from budgetary crisis to crisis, relying on a few donors to carry the load? Does each family recognize how important it is to support the mission of the church financially, as well as with their time and presence in worship?

If your congregation is used to participatory sermons, invite them to consider what it means to remain alert both as individual disciples and as a congregation? What does it look like to have “extra oil” for the lamps? Invite each worshiper to come up with one way that they can provide “extra oil” and have them write that on a cut out of a paper oil lamp. Hang all the lamps on a wall in a visible spot under the heading of “Prepared to Be God’s People with Extra Oil for our Lamps.”

With Youth

This week’s Old Testament reading from Amos is a great conversation starter with youth and young adults. We often hear people say they are ready for the Lord’s return or the Day of the Lord. The prophet Amos invites us to think long and hard about that for which we are asking and hoping. It appears that God isn’t too happy with the religious ceremonies and services of the people. Instead, God wants to see justice and righteousness flow like a mountain stream, nourishing all of creation with goodness and right. Invite the youth to consider what this might look like in a congregation? Are we called to advocate on behalf of those who are voiceless? Should we be more focused on taking the church out of the building or trying to get people to come in?

If you have an Eagle Scout or a Girl Scout working on an award, consider proposing they construction a fountain somewhere on your church property that will serve as a visual reminder of these verses from Amos.

With Children

Today’s gospel lesson talks about some smart bridesmaids and some not-so-smart bridesmaids. The smart ones had enough extra oil to keep their lamps burning while the not-so-smart ones didn’t bring extra oil at all. Today we take for granted that we can flip a switch and have light. If the power goes out, we have generators and flashlights. In Jesus’ day, there was no electricity or generators. If your lamps ran out of oil, you were left in the dark.

It’s always a good idea to be prepared, so today you can show the children how to make a simple lamp with a mason jar, some olive oil, some wire, and cotton cord for a wick (Note: Pure olive oil is best because it doesn’t smoke; other vegetable oils will smoke some). You can find instructions here and other places using an Internet search engine. You can talk about how this simple lamp is good stewardship because it provides a bright, safe light that doesn’t cost a lot and helps you always to be prepared. Give the children instructions to make their own lamp at home with the help of an adult. Remind them that it’s never o.k. to play with matches or fire without an adult to help them.

Consider singing “This Little Light of Mine” if you have time in worship today. Offer a simple prayer for the gift of light and for the grace to be prepared in all circumstances. Pray for the children to be alert to God’s presence all around them. Give thanks for the children, too.

Photo: James Emery and Waiting for the Word, Creative Commons. Thanks!




About the Author

The Rev. Sharron Riessinger Blezard is an ELCA pastor currently rostered in the Lower Susquehanna Synod. She came to ordained ministry after teaching secondary and college English, working in non-profit management and public relations, and moonlighting as a freelance writer. See more posts by .

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  1. pamela housman

    Thanks for expressing some of the same concerns I’ve had with this passage. You’ve made it easier to teach this lesson. God be with you.

  2. Thank you, Pamela, for the feedback. Blessings on your ministry!

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